Thursday, February 13, 2014

what i wish i knew at fourteen...

Good morning friends.  It takes a snow day for me to carve time out to blog.  The shop was a HUGE hit again.  Thank you all SO MUCH!  I looked over at Tamara the other day as we were slouched over our work tables hammering away and said, "Remember when we used to go on nature walks? Remember when we used to go to lunch for fun?"  That seems like so long ago;)

This little side hobby has turned into a full time, hard core gig.  You see the five days of the shop being open...we see weeks before and after of prep, stamping, photographing, listing and really hard....very detailed work.  Have I ever mentioned details are not my thing.  Thank God for my helpers!  This growth is such a blessing...such an amazingly overwhelming "God is in this THING", but I'm trying to figure out how to grow with it and not be swallowed up whole.

So needless to say last weekend when my girl turned fourteen I was more than ready to throw down the hammer and escape the basement for a bit.  We hit PF Chang's for dinner.  Did a little shopping at Anthro and saw an action movie.  My girl likes action:)

My girls are opposites.  Little chick wears her heart on her sleeve.  If she's the least bit uncomfortable, sad, tired, hungry or know it.  Big chick keeps her feelings stuffed down a bit until it finally bubbles up and she erupts like a full blown volcano.

The night before her birthday she erupted.  This being a teenager business is hard.  It's the balance between wanting independence to spread your wings, and wanting to feel safe and secure and little...geesh it's brutal.  There were tears about wanting to be remembered.  There were tears about a lot of other heavy things.  Things that honey and I listened to and identified with.  Sometimes all they need/want is a sounding board.  Guess what?  We went through the same stuff.  We felt the same way you do.  It's all gonna be alright.  Tell us what you're feeling.  We can help you...  This season is HARD, but it gets better.  We promise.

We listened.  We shared.  She wiped away the tears, smiled and left.  We cried.  Why?  Because that's what parents do.  We pour out. We take it all in, and desperately we wish we could walk the walk for them knowing what we know now.

Oh to be fourteen all over again.  Oh to know that being true to yourself and not worrying about everything so much is the way to go.  To know that this season is so short, such a small little blip in your life, and not the defining end all of what you will become.  That you don't have to have it all figured out.  That God allows you to struggle a bit at times to shape and mold who you will grow into.  Wish I could take all of my life experiences...struggles, pain, testings, joy, success, overcoming, confidence, love etc...and mix them into a little pill for her to swallow so she didn't have to worry.  So she didn't have to go through it unsure.  But that's not how it works.  We each have our own path to pave.  

I'm rejoicing with this girl.  I know she'll figure it out.  God has great big things for her.  She will be remembered.  She will find her voice, use her gifts, be surrounded with people who love her.  Her dreams will come to pass and unfold.  Why?  Because she has a heavenly daddy who loves her so much more than honey and I ever could.  And if we want these things for does HE!

 Happy fourteenth baby girl!!! 

Be a blessing,

His mercies are new every morning. 
Finally feeling better...
fourteen years of motherhood.
my girl!
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  1. i think you're such a great mama. both of your girl's are as sweet as pie. i know how much you guys love pf changs - so glad you had a fun celebration! love you!!

  2. This resonates in so many ways. My firstborn is 19 and still navigating the rough waters of growing up. Different season but beautiful and burdensome just the same. Your sweet girl seems to be an old soul like mine with really deep thoughts and that can make growing up seem even more tiresome and difficult. Hurts to watch but it's such a blessing to watch the Lord tether her to Himself and continue to pull her along! Prayers fellow mama as you carry her load with her.

    Loved this post <3

  3. Love that sweet girl and it makes my own heart
    cry to think that something hurt her. You know
    my own chick had a rough journey through high
    school, but thank the Lord she's soaring now in
    college!!! You and your hubby are such loving
    parents and I can tell she wants to be just like you : )

    Happy Birthday, Big Chick! Sending you loads of
    love from Minnesota.....just as you are, which is lovely
    and amazing.

    xo Suzanne

  4. I hear you about this being such a challenging age - for them & for us - my daughter will be 13 next month & it's an emotional rollercoaster...sounds like you are handling it very well though. I can't believe Big Chick is 14, wow...where did that time go?! She's a beautiful girl, love that photo of her & your Honey :) Xx

  5. Thanks so much for sharing Becky! My girl just turned 16 and somedays are just hard. You're right being a teenager is rough!! Thank you for the reminder that God loves our kids way more than we do!!

  6. I don't even want to think about it - my oldest is only 6 but I know these teenage years will be here all too soon!! You daughter is growing into such a lovely young woman - in all ways!! :)

  7. She sure is a cutie. Happy Birthday. I hope you feel better.

  8. 14 is so hard. I can't even imagine how much harder it is for a girl. May God bless her. You can tell her that she will surely be remembered for her lovely pictures.

  9. Hang in there, Big Chick! It gets better! Be happy that you have both parents who love, listen, and talk to you. Have an awesome birthday! XO

  10. Oh man ~ I can relate right now even though the 14 yr old is not living under my roof. It's hard ~ so hard and it makes me want to scoop her up and beat up the boys that break her heart and put her into a safe little bubble. I have no doubt that your girl will achieve great things ~ I love her photos on IG and she pairs them with the best words whether it is a scripture or quote. Hugs all around. xo

  11. A Happy Birthday to your Sweet Girl !!! I have three two are adults now and my youngest is 14 it's not easy being a young women for sure.I am loving that flower did you get it at Anthro ??? I need one :) Many Blessings ~

  12. Funny how our children can be so different isn't it? My two girls are like yours. One lets me know everythng and the other one is strong until she can't take anymore, which is usually a surprise hit ;)

    Happy birthday to your sweet girl. She will figure it all out. It's just so hard as parents to let them. I'm right there with you.


  13. Beautiful post, congrats to you girl and to you! You ALL have been so blessed there for sure. May blessings keep pouring in! :-)

  14. Happy Birthday, Big Chick!
    Praying you continue to grow in knowing how much God loves you and cherishes you…
    his love will carry you through anything…it'll sustain you in hard times.

    You're a special girl…he's got amazing plans for your life…you're living in those amazing plans now…it doesn't start when you're older…you know that, right?
    He's using your life now! :)

  15. Happy Birthday you your daughter. Such great earthly examples she has to follow. It is so easy as adults to forget what a rough time the teenage years can be. She will fall, but you have taught her how to rise again. Keep it are great parents, I think. (Received my it and I thank you)

  16. Happy 14, Big Chick!! :)
    Becky, you are a great mama, and you're doing an awesome job with your girls. xoxo

  17. Oh, what a precious, precious post! I cannot even imagine being 14 in today's world. I do believe when I was 14 that this whole "growing up" thing was so different. Your girls are so on the right track because they have a Dad and a Mom on the right track that is leading them as parents should. Blessings abundant to your daughter on this most special b'day!

  18. Helping our kids "contain" life (The Mom Factor by Cloud and Townsend) is one of my favorite parts of being a mom. So glad your sweet and growing up girl had you guys there to do just that.


  19. see? I knew we needed more talking time the other day. LOL It's never long enough!! What a sweet post.

  20. How come I tear up often when I read your posts?? First off,
    (¯`♥´¯) ♥♥.•*¨*•.*..•*¨*•.♥♥(¯`♥´¯)
    `*.¸.•´ HAPPY BIRTHDAY`*.¸.•´
    to your pretty and big hearted Big Chic!! She is so blessed to have wonderful listening, loving and supportive parents like you two.
    It takes me back to when our 2 daughters were in Junior High and we would have family couch times where we would listen and
    encourage and just be sounding boards for them. It's so important that they know they have parents who will just listen when they need it.
    I cannot believe that your sweet girl is fourteen!!!! You must be so proud of both of your daughters. They are big-hearted and caring and love Jesus just as their momma and daddy do.. That is so wonderful Becky.

    ♥Lee Ann


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