Friday, June 15, 2012

botox, measuring up and turkey meatloaf

I'm so glad it's Friday. Today is FINALLY my girls last day of school. WOOOHOOOO! Saturday we are celebrating daddy and then Sunday the girls and I fly home for a week with our family and friends back in Illinois.  It will be the first Father's day I've been home in I don't remember how long.  So needless to say next week I won't be here, but you can catch me on Instagram...farmgirlpaints:)

Okay so recently I went with a friend to get botox.  SHE got botox.  I came along to keep her company;)   

It was her first time.  We sat in the waiting room incognito with the other plastic surgery patients.  Browsing through unbelievable before and after pics.  She signed forms.  I took deep breaths.  I was nervous for her.  She was messing with her face.  That's scary business. 

She was so brave.  I distracted her with all my photo taking and questions to her doctor.  It was good fun.

I hesitated posting any of them because it's a little taboo to talk about plastic surgery. We're supposed to be happy with aging. Grow old gracefully and all that. I probably won't ever get botox, simply because I look sorta cute with bangs, and that seems less invasive and cheaper;)  And sometimes things go wrong, like plumped up, misshapen lips and Meg Ryan...just sayin'.  But I don't see anything wrong with trying to fight the clock a bit. I use eye cream and wrinkle fighter. Is that a bad thing?

The thing that stuck with me the most that day is that Joannie confessed to me she had a blog.  I've known her for almost a year and she just now told me.  She didn't even want to tell me the name!  I was like WHAT??  How could you keep that from me?  Here I've talked about blogging and thought you didn't understand me.  'Cause let's be honest.  If you don't blog...bloggers probably seem a little strange.  But she did get it and didn't say anything.  She said I was a pro and her blog wasn't what she wanted it to be etc... I was mortified because I get it.  She was comparing and didn't feel like she measured up.  I so get it. That's what we do as women. 

I've had other friends tell me lately that my life seems so "exciting and happy".  That it's probably hard for me to make friends because I'm "intimidating" etc...  Uh are you really talking about me??  INTIMIDATING??!!  That's just weird.  Here's the thing.  My life is good.  I'm blessed.  I show fun things, because that's more interesting to write about and read, but I try to keep it real.  I'm FAR from perfect. 

I struggled with depression off and on all winter long and didn't talk about it much because for cryin' out loud I thought my lows were related to winter and I live somewhere fairly warm and sunny now. It's almost embarrassing. There are no excuses, except maybe hormones. There was nothing to be low about and still...the struggle.

I'm doing better now. Feeling wonderful actually, but I censored myself a bit because when we let people in we open ourselves up to criticism and it hurts. I know.  I've had my fair share of digs. But the thing is this is my blog...My thoughts. They aren't always going to be the same as yours and that's okay. We are individuals. And in that individualism we need to remember there is only one you and only one me. We don't need to compete. We don't need to measure up with each other. We are all on different paths, and if we let our self worth be affected by looking around at what other people are doing and then feel small we are cheating ourselves out of God's best for our own lives. Trust me. I know about this. I've done this so much. These are the words I say to myself!  The only answer, if there is one, is to take our thoughts captive Keep focused on our own walk and ask God to forgive and help us when we fall into comparison.  So whew got that off my chest. I feel better now. Like frown lines erased good;)

Quaker's Oatmeal meatloaf

You need:
1 1/2 pounds of lean ground beef or turkey.  We used turkey.
3/4 cup Quaker Oats
3/4 cup finely chopped onion.  We used flakes.
1/2 cup ketchup
1 egg, lightly beaten
1 tablespoon, Worcestershire sauce
2 cloves garlic, minced
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon black pepper

Heat oven to 350.  Combine all the ingredients.  Bake for 50-55 minutes until meatloaf is not pink in center and juices are clear.

The thing that MAKES this really good is the sauce.  About 20 minutes before it's done heat up a cup of ketchup, 4T of brown sugar, 4T of vinegar, 2T of Worchestershire sauce and pour over the meatloaf.  Finish cooking.  SO GOOD!

Now it's your turn.  If you have a yummy recipe to share grab my button, link to your post and let's FEED OUR FAMILIES:)

Have a blessed WEEK:) 
I'll miss you.

626.  school's finally out!!!
627.  being able to FLY home
628.  instagram you girls
629.  surprising daddy with a special day
630.  spending lots of time with my friends this past week

631.  my "summer fun" display.  inspired by alicia's happiness project..took a vintage candy display, clipped on all our summer ideas...instant reminder of things to do when we get bored.   

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  1. Gosh why are women wired that way?! I compare myself to others all the time and it just frustrates the dickens out me!

    I tried your tuna casserole recipe...soooo stinkin' good :)

  2. Hey girlie! Your friends blog link didn't work when I tried it. You may want to check on it. We've all felt that insecurity when it comes to blogging. I know I have! Keep speaking what you're speaking. God is using you. :P

  3. I feel that way all the time. My blog isn't smart enough. I am too goofy. I think maybe I should quit I don't have enough readers...then I get real and realize I blog for me. I LOVE it. If no one reads well, I can't care. But YOU read it!! It just is who I am. I gotta spill it. I keep it real. I cannot be all fancy in my writing because then it feels phony. So, I write like I talk. I use my 4th grade vocabulary. I blather and I joke. BUt I still fight the struggle with comparison. ...home, body, clothes. God loves me. I should be happy with how he made me. I am working on it and most of the time I am happy with it all.

  4. ah
    that dreaded word:

    we all do it
    we all hate it
    we all probably need
    to just let go of it

    but thanks for sharing your heart

    i think
    this is my first time
    linking some nosh
    to your party

    so thanks for hosting



  5. I compare myself constantly especially with me just turning 30, I felt like I should be married with kids by this point and the truth is, I'm no where near either of those things. God doesn't compare us to His other children, so I try my best to do the same. We each have a path, purpose, and gifts. We all are blessings in our own special way. :)

  6. I think girls can do whatever they want to fight the aging clock! : ) Knock themselves out. As long as they don't get crazy with it.

    I don't talk about my blog in real life too much. I don't think the people that work with me need to know every detail of my life : ) so, I don't talk about it. I like it better that way. I am not out to get a million billion followers. I just like taking pictures and talking. It is funny how each person is different, isn't it?

    Depression is really a struggle for me this year as well. : (

  7. What an awesome post! I have read like three this week that talk about the same subject. I just think that some people are better at blogging, picture taking, cooking, etc. but it doesn't matter - we are all here for fun, ideas and online fellowship :) So happy I found yours and even happier I found your cuffs. You truly rock! Have a blessed time with your parents. xo

  8. I think we all do that durned comparison. Realizing it and knowing that if we are happy in our own skin, it just doesn't matter in the end. So happy that you are going home for a visit. ENJOY!

  9. I love this post, and you're so right. I mean, if God wanted us all to be the same, we'd all be the same. Everyone brings something special to the party. I love you so much, and I just want to tell everyone: you're not at all intimidating. I mean, YES, you're beautiful and, in my opinion, very much the fabulous person you come across to be, in your blog. But you're so warm. I remember the first time we met in real life, and you gave me a huge hug. You've been hugging me in one way or another, ever since.

    I see your lake goal hanging there!!! So excited to see you climb up in some bacteria-ridden water!!! hahaha No, you'll be fine. I mean, if I really thought it were dangerous, I wouldn't let my kids get in there, right? Then again, maybe our immune systems are just in overdrive b/c seems like everything in my house is a little bit dirty/sticky all the time. :)

    Be careful on your trip!!! Traveling is more dangerous than swimming in the lake!!! See you when you get back.

  10. Oh dear beautiful lady! This was such an encouragement to me. I try hard not to compare. Days, weeks even will go by and I will think I am doing ok until someone on Facebook will talk about how wonderful their life is or how awesome their vacation was. Ugh, I hate that I get jealous or compare my life to theirs. Darn Facebook. :)
    I am sure there are times when people look at me and think I have it all together or that I am something. When that happens I usually die of embarassment and laughter! HA!
    I hope you have a fun and relaxing trip! I live in Illinois. :)

  11. i'm so thankful that in Christ we can have the victory over these negative thoughts and just rest in Him, because He made us exactly who He wanted us to be.
    i pray that i'm defined by Him in my life and not what others think, say, or anything else.
    (although i still have tendencies to compare ;))

    i hope you have an awesome trip home!
    sounds so exciting.
    blessings to you!

  12. "comparison is the theif of joy." isn't that good!? i think that was eleanor roosevelt...but i'm not sure. we all need to live like this.

  13. First LOVE that candy display!!Love and second I LOVE your Blog and find it fun and inspiring:O) I like to share happy stuff too and occasionally some health stuff that I think as women we need to know. Third I will share this recipe with the hubby who Loves meatloaf( i dont):O) have an awesome day and have a safe trip sweet lady:O)

  14. I'd KILL to have someone to chit chat about blogging with. I don't know anyone (except the person that doesn't blog anymore because I read her blog) in real life that blogs. I am so INSPIRED by your blog. I wonder what makes this go the other way with some people? I hope your friend can feel differently now that the cat is out of the bag. :)

  15. Comparisons are bad and do no good. Even knowing that, it is hard not to. I think I recognize Dr Niamtu from his ads :) Have a great time on vacation! We head to the beach on Sunday.

  16. This is so encouraging! I so needed to hear this from someone I admire...I SO wear the crown of comparison. But, I work on it...because, like you said - God has an individual path for each of His children - full of beauty, blessings, and lessons. I am so thankful for that! :)Loving your Instagram too. SO addicting, right!?

  17. I can so relate to those struggles! Both in feeling insecure about my blog and battling with depression. Thanks for sharing what you do. I linked up our suppers and a recipe for veggie burgers! Thanks for hosting!

  18. I cant believe that your freind held that from you of all people. The thing I like about you the most is that you are so honest. There is so much I would like to say but I don't want to hurt your friend.....and I know she must be a nice person to be your friend.
    I had to laugh at the doctors' pictre. His forehead.......he looks like another nice person so I won't say more.
    Oh well, I need to not judge. Be yourself and don't feel bad about it.

  19. Oh yes, the dreaded comparisons -- almost as bad as the dreaded wrinkles! :)

    Love me some botox!!!

    Have a fun weekend!

  20. it's such a hard/weird balance to be real, but not complain, but also be joyous, you know?! i appreciate your realness. and i think bangs are way better than botox. ; ) have fun at home!!

  21. LOVE this! So glad you said it because we all need to hear it :)

  22. That clip is super, super cute!! LOVE!!

    Your words were awesome and I think so many of us think them. That is why I love to read your are real and it shines through:)

    Enjoy your travels.


  23. Comparison- yuck- I hate to admit that it causes so much strife in my heart. Ugh. Thank you for sharing your heart on this booger of a struggle.
    Have so much fun on your adventure home!

  24. Ouch! Botox! But, I must confess I get Radiesse injections and that's not the most comfortable procedure either. Thinking the best think to do is just embrace aging and "call it good." :o) And, not compare ourselves to anyone else. We are unique in design by God's hands. How much better could it be.

    Great post!

  25. Ouch! Botox! But, I must confess I get Radiesse injections and that's not the most comfortable procedure either. Thinking the best think to do is just embrace aging and "call it good." :o) And, not compare ourselves to anyone else. We are unique in design by God's hands. How much better could it be.

    Great post!

  26. So needed to hear your little "don't compare myself" talk regarding blogging. Just got over a long disappearing act from my blog because I felt so ugh...whatever. Anyway I have been feeling better about it, hence the reason I'm stopping by :) Have a wonderful vacay. Love your blog so much and you too even though I don't know you! You are such a blogging inspiration.

  27. I laughed when I saw the dr. in this photo because I believe he is the same doc that removed my friend's mole. He was a bit smug and cocky and suggested she get botox as he examined her mole. jerky:)
    I love your posts. And thank you for commenting on my blog a while ago. made my day:) I actually have a "trunk show" at a gallery/shop downtown on July 14th. If you've never been, it's called Quirk. On Broad Street. Anyhow, fun to look around there and I'll be peddling my wares (for the first time ever!!!eeeeek!) on that date. Also, there is a local art show that I thought you might be interested in. My husband used to do art shows so we still run in that circle a bit. Not sure if you want to do a show but holler if you want to know more:) Your stuff is so beautiful!

  28. Awww... what a great post. I sure miss you. I have to say that I was nodding my head all the way through it. I think I'm starting to come out of MY funk... but it would really help if I could lose 10 lbs on top of that! Sheesh... see? I go down that road... stupid I know.

    I'm sorry I missed ya today. Thought of you though as I sat and stared at the view...

    Love you

  29. Love your blog Becky. I wish that I could write as well as you do....but I can't and I accept that. :) My blog are cool in thier very own way. :) As for growing old gracefullly, I am doing the best that I can. I felt better about it up until I turned 60 when I suddenly got lots of wrinkles. If I had the courage to get some botox shots I would but I am afraid of putting that stuff into my body. So wrinkles it is. I battle with chronic illness and chronic pain which causes me to have depression. Like you I really don't talk about that on my blog. I don't want to bring anyone down.Since I can not take medicine for it I go for walks and do what ever else I can to keep up the front. :)

    Love the sound of your meatloaf. I would participate in your recipe swap but have not cooked much this week. Hope you have lots of fun with your family next week


  30. You said it so well - it is something we all struggle with - just got home from a whole talk about that in church - the whispers in our ear are not from God when it is telling us we are not enough! Trying to hear the only Good whispers is always a challenge but something we should all be seeking.

    Have a great trip! Oh, and I have always told my hairdresser "its bangs or botox baby - and since I am not getting botox - bring on the bangs!"

    Have fun,

  31. DANG IT!!! My "bangs" would have to be down to my CHIN to hide all my wrinkles---hahaha! But seriously wishing I could go through with a little botox myself :( I always think, 'If I could choose just one thing to fix, it would be my face......even over the cellulite, flat chest, gray hair, & junk in the trunk.' I hate my wrinkles. So therefore, I hate my face. That must make God so sad. I am rejecting His creation :(

    And I feel kinda sad for your friend....she seems to have such pretty, pretty skin :(

    That darn vanity!!! It's pure venom.

  32. OH! And your "summer fun" display exudes your sweetness....such a beautiful list. I like to make lists (on any old srap of paper), but I always lose them, and in turn, lose my drive to complete them.


  33. YES, good reminder
    to not compare, but
    to lift up and celebrate,
    which is my motto!!!

    Girlie, please teach
    me about Instagram
    so I can get with the
    program and follow
    you, too!!

    So excited for your
    trip, even though I'm
    gonna miss you in VA
    next week!!

    xo Suzanne

  34. Are you going to tell us where your friend blogs? My blog isn't much either and I tend to keep it on the DL. It has only been more recently that I have actually put a little effort into connecting with other bloggers, showing more LIFE stuff on the blog, and commenting on blogs with my profile.

    You are an inspiration though....Funk and all, it has been great to read about the things you do share about your life and how you deal.

    Have fun on your trip with your girls!

  35. I love all of your heart..
    You are SO the reminders to not compare.
    To His glory I have been working on this and it is getting better.
    I just read in Jesus Calling this morning something similar to this. It is so natural for our flesh to do isn't it? excited I am for you to FLY home!! enjoy every sweet moment and I always love your Instagrams;)

  36. comparing is so nasty and it's something we all do.
    glad you put yourself out there in this post...glad your friend got botox if it's what SHE wanted to do...

    I'd LOVE it if I suddenly had peace to get botox in my # 11 wrinkle between my eyebrows! But, I don't, so I won't.

    enjoy your time with your family next I DARE get on instagram?

  37. Oh, sweet Becky. I love that this post went from Botox to blogging to depression to meatloaf. isn't that just life?

    Thank you for being real about your struggles. I feel that way too! The few times I've done a gut wrenching honest post, the feedback has been amazing and so supportive. I think there are many women struggling. Many Christian women struggling which piles on the guilt and shame.

    i am just re-reading Grace for the Good Girl. So refreshing. So, so refreshing. The author has started an online book club as well. The community and outpouring of support has been amazing. So freeing to not be "on" and "fine" all the time. Ahhhh... she's having a meet up of readers in greensboro in August. Can't you just see a room full of "good girls"??? All trying to out "good" each other? I think it will be freeing and fun and worship-filled as we all admit our need for Christ daily.

    Rambling on this Sunday morning. I hope your trip is fantastic!

    AGain, thanks for your honesty.

  38. It's sweet and sad at the same time Becky. We all try to portray the good in our lives and not all the downs because seriously ~ I can get down enough on my own ~ I really don't need help in that department! We all have our struggles ~ I know you have too. I think I am rambling... I would love to read Joannie's blog so if you pry it out of her please let me know! I don't think I would ever do the botox thing ~ just call me chicken! Have a blast in IL. xo

  39. and love that summer board you made for the girls ~ you are so smart! xo

  40. I had to laugh when I saw the doc's forehead! And then I laughed again when you said your friend admitted she had a blog. I am always hesitant to tell people because so many don't get it, but then there are so many that do. We all blog for various reasons. Some of us put it all out there, good and bad. I tend to focus on the happier aspects of my life because I have enough bad stuff going on, just as we all do. My blog is my escape and my way of feeling gratitude for the good things I do have and experience. Once in awhile I will get emotional and put out a angsty blog, but it's not my norm.

    Hope your trip was wonderful and I don't comment on your blog too often because, well, I'm intimidated too sometimes, but I really like how you keep it real and I can always feel your love for your family. (run on sentence!) Ann

  41. I just dumped all my words into a blog post, so don't have a lot left at the moment, but wanted to say I LOVE THIS POST! I'm with you and for you! Thanks for sharing!


  42. Its true Becky...we as women do do that, don't we?
    I like a quote I recently read that Bill Johnson wrote and I've been letting it sink in..deep inside.

    "I cannot afford to have a thought in my head about me that is not in His"

    His thoughts of me/us are all that really matter.
    I'm asking my Lord to help me grow and walk in this truth. \0/

    That meatloaf recipe sounds very close to my recipe, which was originally my Mommas and the one we grew up eating!
    Yummy! We all love the sauce too!Our sauce consists of ketchup, brown sugar and a bit of dry mustard.

    Well happy day to you and have a wonderful time sweet friend!
    Always a pleasure visiting you!
    Hugs from me to you xo

    Much love,
    Deborah xoxo

  43. I have been guilty of comparing myself to other bloggers and people on facebook and I've heard the same about people thinking I've got it all together...because I don't say when I don't. It's hard in this digital age because even when we set out to be real it's not the same as face to face real allowing the conversation to flow real. I'm trying to get back into blogging after a loooong time away. I'm trying to publish a book and honestly I needed to get away from comparisons that I couldn't seem to get away from. I've missed your blog though and I'm happy to be reading again:)

    And THANK YOU for the recipe...we're trying to be wheat free as much as possible and I'm so trying this meatloaf recipe in the next couple of days.

    AND I never thought I would, but I am wishing I had the money for botox;) My mother was right when she said "You make that face long enough and it will get stuck that way"...hahaha! No more scowling, stressing and squinting for me!

  44. Ok Becky, here I am. I wasn't ready either to share my blog because even though I am not new to blogworld (as I have another blog that has been going since 2009, my newest blog is a bit melancholy and not attractive like yours and many others. Comparison that darn thief of joy ...haha. I love how you supported your friend. Many years ago when I was working and money was not object, I too had Botox injected between my eyes and on my forehead. I loooooved it. I looked so much more refreshed and a lot younger. Now that I am walking with the Lord I am trying hard to embrace growing old gracefully, but admittantly if a doctor offered to do it for free...I would be first in line.

  45. Hi Becky - just wanted to stop and say Hi....hope you are doing well - and so sorry to hear you were batteling with depression - I know someone who is going through that severly right now (she has help)

    Anne Marie

  46. Becky oh special Becky...don't you ever change...I love the real Y♥U, especially because you share with us your struggles and then come out thankful in the end because you know the ONE upstairs who can give joy when going through trials and in spite of whatever you are going through. You are almost young enough to be my daughter, and yet I have learned from you and have been blessed by your realness and faith so many times. I have never ever thought of you as one bit intimidating. I think because you have a heart that wants to help others, that God blesses your heart and words as you write on our blog. That naturally shines through as happy!

    Hope you are having fun being with your mom and dad. Come back and show us pictures!!!

    Keep being beautiful Y♥U!
    ♥Lee Ann

  47. well BOOM BOOM POW! I so agree with you. I was actually going to, and still am, write a post about "how my life appears" because so many people have said that to me too since blogging that I'm "so lucky" or "so blessed" because of travel or whatever...but they see just the tip of the iceberg, just like they are seeing with you! of course i'm gonna share my travels etc and certain fun, relaxing times, but that doesn't mean my life is easy breezy and that's who I AM.

    I think we do though instinctually compare our blogs to others..I use to, I don't really anymore because I have accepted the gifts that God has given only to me to share and to use for His glory and that's what I'm doing. For so long I tried to be this this or this woman, and I wished my gifts were different...but NOT ANYMORE!!! I can grow and evolve and learn and that's good, that's OK--I accept where God is using me!
    But when I first saw you and your blog on Life Made Lovely, I thought the same thing about your blog--not about you, cuz I could tell you were down to earth and cool , but about how amazing your work is and your blog!!! So I can see what your friend is saying---I hope she gave you her blog address now :)
    thanks for writing this great great post!


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