Monday, August 22, 2011

there i said it

I got the call you never want right before I went to sleep last night.  My favorite Uncle had a massive heart attack over the weekend and died.  He's the first of my Aunts and Uncles to pass.  I sat there on the phone completely numb.  Death is shocking like that.  It makes everything else seem unimportant and trivial.  It puts your world off it's axis and pinpoints what's really important.


My Uncle Gene was loud, opinionated, and outspoken.  He filled a room with his larger than life personality.  He was generous, had a heart of gold and was fun.  I loved being around him because he was fearless in talking about what he thought.  Didn't matter if you agreed or not, he knew what he thought and he shared.  As I became an adult he actually made the effort to get to know me.

He came to visit us last year in Minnesota.  He sat at our kitchen table, played wii with the girls, showed me his work on the computer, slept in our spare bed.  It was the last time I talked to him.  What makes me the most upset is that I have no idea if he was a believer or not.  He might have been...we never talked about faith.  Why is it that you don't necessarily think about a person's soul until you find out they are terminally ill or have died?  Every time I woke up last night he was the first jolt of reality to hit me...Uncle Gene can that be?    


I write this blog day after day.  I share my heart and my faith.  You sit at my table, you dine with me and my family.  You sleep in my spare are somewhat a part of this family.  It would be an injustice if I never asked you about your faith.  Do you have the assurance that when you die eternity in Heaven will be your home?  What if death came today suddenly?  Have you made the decision to ask Jesus in your heart?   There I said it.  Please think about your soul.  Life is short.  Eternity is forever. 

Have a blessed day.

31.  a new day.
32.  the blood of Jesus that covers my sin.
33.  breath and life.

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  1. Oh, Becky. I am so sorry about your Uncle Gene. I will pray for your Aunt and your cousins and your family as they grieve this loss. I pray he is in heaven today.

    I believe in Jesus.

  2. I KNOW my Jesus died for my salvation and I KNOW it's only because of God's grace that I am saved.

    My Daddy is really sick. And I made a point to ask him the other day, I told him it was important for me to know and he just said: "That's between me and God"... ugh... But I won't give up.

    Prayers go out to you and your family. I lost my favorite aunt right before Christen was born. I know the days ahead will not be easy, but you will be okay. God's got you. ((HUGS))

  3. I want you to know that I am a believer; I am justified by the atoning blood of Jesus on the cross. If I never meet you this side of heaven, I will know you there. Blessings, Karon

  4. I am so sorry, Becky.
    I have these exact fears for my mother. Sort of scary how similar in tone our posts are this day.
    No coincidences, always a God thing when that happens.

    My love and prayers for you this day, my friend.


  5. I'm so sorry about your Uncle - the world changes as we "grow up" so much sadness, so much pain. the good in that is we do see eternity with more of a sense of reality. thanks for sharing your faith - your Uncle Gene's death - whether he is a believer or not (and who really knows?!) has served a mighty purpose! sending hugs and prayers to you and your family.

    xo ellie

  6. I'm so sorry, Becky, for your loss. I'll be praying for you today, especially in my moments of quiet.

    Good for you for asking the "hard question." Why is it that it's so much easier to ask every, any other? May God continue to grow us in boldness...

  7. I am sorry about your uncle. I know when my dear cousin died this year that I was at peace knowing how she spent her living years preparing to "go home". I still struggle if my own father is in Heaven. (((((HUGS)))))

  8. I have been saved by the blood of Jesus, even though I don't deserve it!
    Sharing with family is hard for me as well. Let me know if you find the secret for making it easier.
    God bless you and your family during this time. If anything, maybe there will now be opportunity to share with other family members.

  9. Becky, I am so sorry for your loss. I know what you mean about eternity and our place in it. I, myself, am a Christian. I believe Jesus died for my sins and rose again and is seated on the right hand of the Father. I believe no one accidentally goes to hell. Our Father loves us and knows our hearts. I don't want to get too dogmatic here, but I believe we don't choose God, He chooses us. He draws us to Him through the Holy Spirit. The only choices we have are to accept or actively reject Him. Again, I'm sorry for your loss. Your words comforted me so when we lost my husband's mom. I hope you feel cared for in your loss.

  10. Lifting you and yours up in prayers and love - I'm sorry for your family's loss, and your worries about your Uncle's faith (or not). I worry about that with some of my family who openly do not share my beliefs. But I also remember that those who are more quiet about their faith may not believe any less than I do, they just aren't as open about sharing.

    Big hugs to you!

  11. First, I'm very sorry for your loss...death does stop you in your tracks.

    Second, Jesus is camped out, sitting at my table, dining with me and sleeping in my spare bed...deep down in my heart. I have been redeemed!

  12. I'm so sorry for your loss. Yes, I know Jesus as my personal Savior...

    Thanks for taking the time to ask your blog readers!

    You are a blessing,

  13. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I'm so sorry for your loss.

  14. Sorry for the loss of your uncle. I have a personal relationship with God having accepted Christ as my Savior. That's for boldly asking your readers.

  15. Becky, so sorry for your loss--those are definitely not phone calls that you want to receive.

    I've been a Catholic all of my life, and became a Christian back in middle school, thanks to a wonderful Evangelical Summer camp I went to for three-four years. I am most definitely a believer.

  16. Oh Becky ~ I am so sorry to hear of your Uncle's passing. Please know that I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. Hugs sweetie. xo

  17. I am so sorry for your loss Becky, thinking of you X

  18. Becky, I'm so sorry to hear about your Uncle, I'll add that to my prayer list. Your faith shines such a bright light, I'm sure your Uncle knew where you stood in regards to your relationship with God, I pray that he knew him well too.

  19. I would/will hate the phone call I recieve too, about "my favorite" uncle. I'm so sorry and I although I'm VERY familiar about losing a loved one (my dad, grandparents, young cousins, etc.) - it still never is easy.

    I'll be thinking of you.

    My Hope is in Jesus Christ - alone. He is my rock, my strength, my all in all. Knowing HIM - is the only one sure thing we have/I have in my life.

    Thanks for sharing this today - and Becky, you never know - how you may have greatly caused someone to "reconsider" the might be their last day.

  20. I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad to know that you spent some good times with him recently. Those memories are precious. I will be praying for your family. Yes, I'm a sinner saved by grace, a believer in Jesus, and I'll see you in heaven some day.

  21. I'm so sorry about your uncle. But I admire you for writing your faith so clearly.

  22. Prayers to you and your family. I am a sinner saved by grace and the blood of Jesus.
    You have made me think this morning...why IS IT we DO wait until bad news come to wonder about one's salvation?????
    God help me to change my thinking.

  23. Dear Becky, I am so sorry for your devastating loss. I lost my sister in May and still miss her and can't believe she's gone even though her health had been declining for some time.

    I visited her and my brother-in-law in March and was able to spend time praying with her at bedtime each night. I had always wanted to talk to her about salvation and on my final night there God gave me a beautiful gift. In a weak voice she told me she had accepted Christ as her Savior. It was a holy moment and one that I will treasure for the rest of my life.

    I am praying for you! Peace and love to you dear blog-sister!

  24. I've had some very similar bloggy thoughts lately. I LOVE you for this.

    So sorry to hear about your loss, Becks. Praying for you and your family.

  25. Bless you for voicing your thoughts. Prayers that your Faith eases your pain.

  26. Becky, so sorry about your uncle. Proud of you for being so bold and asking us if we are personally related to Jesus Christ. The most important decision any of us will ever make in our lives. Yes, Jesus is my savior. Hugs to you.

  27. So so sorry to hear of your loss. It doesn't matter how it comes, death is always a shocker...especially with those that we love. Thinking of you!! And thank you for being bold and saying what you need to say :)

  28. I have blogged the "are you saved"? post.I prayed when I started my blog that it would be a blog that represented a girl who is a Jesus lover, who has fun in life while walking with him daily.
    Praying for you and your family. ((hugs))

  29. Dear Becky,

    Thank you for asking. The answer is yes. You can never ask too often when it comes to this question. Praying for you and the family as you go through this time. Let me know if there is anything I can do for you.


  30. I am so, so, so sorry to hear this. I have a favorite uncle, too and i just don't know what I would do if something happened to him.

    I am praying for you and your family.

  31. Oh Becky....I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I will be praying for you and your family!

    Yes..Jesus is my Savior and I am so glad you asked.


  32. Becky, I am so sorry for your loss.
    Praying for your family today.


  33. I'm so so sorry. Having recently lost a family member the sting is still there - I know a bit of how you're feeling. Praying for all of you during this sad time.

    And what a peace in the midst of death Jesus can bring if we know Him! Eternity is our home all because of Him!!! Amen.

  34. way to say it flat out like that, girl! i'm so sorry for your loss...i wish i would've read this earlier, now i kind of feel like a shmuck after having a fun ol' convo with you earlier. i'm sorry :(
    but yes, i know where i'm headed...and boy does that feel good!

  35. I am so sorry about your uncle. I am proud and thankful to say that I accepted Christ many years ago. It is only by His grace that I make my way through this life. May His peace be with you.

    I posted this several years ago, but it came to mind when I read this post. Hopefully, it can encourage you.

  36. Becky,
    I am sorry for your pain! Your family will be in my prayers. Hopefully someone will know will whether or not your Uncle Gene knew Christ.

    It's the hardest question among family but the biggest that needs asking!!

    Thank you for throwing it out there! We are sister in Christ!

  37. I'm so sorry for your loss, Becky. I've lost so many close relatives as well as both parents. The only thing that makes it bearable is that we will reunite one day in Heaven.
    God Bless,

  38. I am so sorry to hear about your uncle.. I often think about my grandpa and I will never know if I will see him again... my grandma (thank you jesus) got saved just before she passed.. I myself have had a wonderful relationship with my Lord & Saviour since I was 11.. If I never get to meet you in this life. .. I know I will meet you in heaven! {hugs}

  39. I am so sorry for the loss of your uncle. He sounds like a wonderful man. Your family will be in my prayers.

  40. my thoughts and prayers are with you. susan

  41. I'm a believer. My faith is a constant companion. I am so sorry about your loss. Praying for your whole family.

  42. im so sorry for your loss becks. thanks for sharing your memories and your heart.
    i love that you put it out there! thats what we are supposed to do, walk it and talk it.
    much love,
    from your future roomie :)

  43. YES and amen. I am admiring your boldness and your laying down your own desire for approval from others to ask such important, eternal questions. We'll all spend eternity somewhere. Only by the grace of God will I spend it in glory.

    So sorry for your family, but I pray that God would use this loss for His glory and good...even here on your blog.

    Love and hugs,

  44. So, so, sorry
    sweetie. I dread
    this day like you
    cannot believe. I
    still have my dad
    and all of his brothers.
    My mom's one brother
    died when he was only
    a little older than I
    am, now. Life is cruel
    that way. I have faith,
    but it isn't as strong
    as yours...yet.
    Love you.
    xx Suzanne

  45. My heart is with you as you go through this difficult time. Much love. Joy

  46. Sorry about your Uncle. I've had a few similar incidents only to hear later that the person had professed faith in Christ. This may happen to you too...our God is faithful!

    And yes, I know Jesus and He knows me. Thanks for asking!

  47. I'm so sorry Becky! I know this is so hard right now. Just remember Deut 31:6, "Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave your or forsake you."
    This is the verse I remembered when my grandmother passed away less than a year ago.

  48. I am sorry for the loss of your uncle. Grieving takes time and energy in a season where your family is already in transition. I am praying for you today.


  49. For a number of weeks my church would state the Apostle's Creed at the beginning of our service. It was to try to get ding dongs like me to remember it.

    I believe in God the Father Almighty,
    maker of heaven and earth:
    And in Jesus Christ His only Son, our Lord:
    who was conceived by the Holy Spirit,
    born of the Virgin Mary,
    suffered under Pontius Pilate,
    was crucified, dead, and buried;
    the third day He rose again from the dead;
    He ascended into Heaven,
    and sits at the right hand of God, the Father Almighty;
    from there He shall come to judge the living and the dead.
    I believe in the Holy Spirit,
    the universal church,
    the communion of saints,
    the forgiveness of sins,
    the resurrection of the body,
    and the life everlasting. Amen.

    Sharing faith is hard. Even in the times that we fail remember that God is bigger than us and His Work goes on inspite of us. I look at it that I've missed out on a blessing if I wasn't part of what he was doing.

  50. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

    I often struggle with the same thoughts about eternity and faith, but often they are thoughts about my faith and my salvation. Sometimes I think to myself "Am I really going to Heaven? Am I good enough? Did I do enough? Am I worthy enough?" It's a scary thought to have, but I believe in my heart of hearts that God loves me, Jesus died for my sins and I am saved through HIS grace.

  51. My deepest sympathies, Becky. You & your family are in my thoughts AND prayers...xo

  52. So sorry to read about your loss! My thoughts and prayers go out to your and your extended family.


  53. So sorry Becky!

    and yes, He has written on all my walls...

  54. I am so sorry Becky for the loss of your Uncle. My prayers for you and your entire family will be sent up to HIM for your comfort. It's so difficult to loose those we love and have made an impression on our heart and lives. "When our worlds are shaking, HEAVEN stands" that song. (I have it also on my blog playlist)

    Thank you for caring enough about us all to ask if we've accepted Christ as our Savior. Yes, He came into my life when I was 12 years old and has been my ROCK ever since! What a wonderful friend I have in JESUS.

    A special heartfelt hug for you my friend in your great loss.
    ♥Lee Ann

  55. I am so sorry about your uncle passing but I am so glad for the reflections you shared with us. You asked the perfect question for us ALL; the question to the non-believer about eternity and to those of us who do believe but have been much too fearful (about offending anyone) to ask the most important question of all. Thank you for what you put out there.

  56. becky, i'm sorry. he sounds like an incredible, precious man, and i'm not sure how this works exactly, but i'm praying even now that he had opportunities to experience God's saving grace, and that he seized one of them and made Christ Lord of every bit of his life.

    #32. thank you, God.

  57. totally had a dream I was buying belts at consignment for you last night!! Ha!

  58. Hey there Becky...
    Checking in on you after the scary earthquake!!
    I'm sure you all felt it too. Crazy huh??!!


  59. Beautiful, heartfelt and poignant... you were blessed to have Uncle Gene in your life for as long as you did! The loss is great but you have many years of wonderful memories to treasure.
    God bless & thanks for sharing!

    Jo xx
    Eliza Interiors & Design

  60. death does work that doesn't it? it amazes me how we can go about our days as if that isn't a reality for each one of us..and how it rips into our world unasked. The most important question in this life.
    A BIG HUG I am sending your way. Praying you and your family feel His comfort all around you.

  61. Becky,
    I'm so sorry to hear about your Uncle's passing. My prayer is that God will ease you and your family's sorrow and comfort you in his divine peace.

    I've been following your blog for a few months now and I have to thank you for sharing your life. I always look forward to your stories.

  62. Sorry for your loss! It is even harder to lose someone and not know where they are spending eternity. You do a wonderful job of witnessing to your blog friends! I, too, am so thankful for the blood of Jesus that covers my sins!I love your thankful list at the end of each post. I'm like you and started reading her book (One Thousand Gifts). It is deep. I put it down for now, I'm sure I will pick it up again one day.
    Thinking of you as you start this new chapter in your life. Your house is gorgeous!
    xo jamie

  63. I am so sorry to read that you lost your uncle. I am sending prayers and good thoughts to you and to your family.

    Yes, I have Jesus in my heart. :)


  64. Your blog is like a breath of fresh air. That song, Your Hands, made me tear up. Thank you for that. Thank you for your love for Jesus and sharing your sweet heart with us.

  65. I'm so sorry Becky.

    This post made me a little uncomfortable. It made me a little squirmy. I'm not full of faith as I should be. I don't know why? There are so many things that I disagree with when it comes to the church but I guess that's not really what faith is all about. I don't even know where to start.


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